Harry Ravain Update

Donation of Drum Set to deserving Drummer who is very ill

2010-02-12T11:51:00.002-06:00

"Akron and New Orleans charities donate drum set to deserving drummer. Shown is drummer Ken Stewart receiving the drums from George Lawrence, owner of George's Drum Shop of Copley and organizer of Parumpapumpum charity which finds donated drums for deserving drummers who can't afford them. The vintage professional drum set belonged to the late Harry Ravain, famed New Orleans Drummer and was donated by Mrs. Harry Ravain and the Harry's Hats Foundation."

Patrick - thank you

2010-01-27T12:15:00.001-06:00

I do not know who you are - but I want to thank you for the following links.. If any of you knew Harry - you knew Ronnie Barron.. Much of Harry's joy in life and music came from his collaborations with Ronnie. I had the pleasure of meeting him. They were brothers in the truest since of the word. Patrick sent me you tube links that show them playing together - I am attaching them hear.. I will treasure these videos forever..

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k15SdaVH5fU&feature=related

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=juPetvelHG8&feature=related

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AaBWHRcKTic&feature=related

Patrick thank you and I will pass them along to his daughter that lives in New Orleans

Harry's Hats and Parumpapapum

2010-01-27T12:13:00.000-06:00

I full set of drums and cymbals are being donated through Harry's foundation and another through a friends to a drummer who is very ill and I pray that this man finds the same joy in Harry's Drums that he did..

Classic Drummer Magazine

2010-01-12T06:34:00.002-06:00

I am sorry I have not updated in a while the holidays were quiet and spent with family. It definitely was an adjustment for me.

Yesterday I arrived home to a package and it was a copy of the latest issue of Classic Drummer magazine and a letter from a dear friend of Harry's. The issue contains a Memorial to Harry. It is a lovely one and thank you to Classic Drummer and Bob for this tribute.

Merry Christmas

2009-12-25T13:43:00.002-06:00

Honey - today is just as quiet as it always was.. It was always just me and you and then you went off to Rock N Bowl to play, preparing for the day after Christmas when our families came together. I am so glad we were able to have the house to share with all those people. It meant so much to you. Yes it was the best house and it was yours.. I missed our traditional breakfast today ..

I wanted to have one more Christmas at the house - but I did not have it in me. And more than anything I wanted you here but neither was in the cards. I am having to put the house on the market.. I am so sorry.. but I am struggling.. This will always be OUR house - no place else will ever be as special.

I wanted to come to see you today but just could not.. I will see you tomorrow - our day to celebrate.. It won't be the same but I will at least spend some time with you. Your mother does not understand my need to see and be with you where you are - but there is such comfort in being with you.. I am so glad you decided that Rayne would be your final resting plave.. there are people who love and care for you there.. and my heart is always with you..

Merry Christmas my love, I miss you and your smile, your energy and your love of drums and life...

Cor Jesu Band Sweater

2009-12-18T23:12:00.002-06:00

I know how much your heritage meant to you so last week I donated your Cor Jesu Band Sweater to the Brother Martin Alumni Association. So forever you will be remembered through this donation at the school. I hope you are pleased with what I have done. I hope one day to go to the school and create an endowment for the drum program at he music department with funds from Harry's Hats. I had to put it on hold for a little while I get in control of finances - I have to concentrate there first then building your foundation becomes predominant..I miss you so much..

I know you are my angel in heaven but I have a couple here on earth.. please watch over the ones here on earth Mike, Bo and Diddley(Dusty).

And Bobby - truly helped me out with your Mom this week. Thank him for me in some special way..

Nothing is what I thought it would be

2009-12-12T11:28:00.000-06:00

Oh - how I wish you were still here, healthy. Life is surely not what I expected. There are so many things that have to change. None of them are what I want. pray for me..

The hard part starts tonight

2009-12-09T16:36:00.001-06:00

I start packing all your drums ups to take them to be sold. I have held out as long as I can and I hope you are good with whom I have chosen. I am so not looking forward to this. Please watch over me and help me through this..

And especially next week for the trip - I will need your support..

I miss you..

Raymond's Birthday

2009-12-06T12:43:00.002-06:00

I went to Henderson last night to celebrate Raymond's birthday at Pat's in Henderson. It was the first time since the funeral that the 4 of us were together.. yes Mike came in from Houston. I brought Raymond the "pot" that he has salivated over since you bought it. I know he will take good care of it and use it and that is what is important.. Mike is also wearing the watch you wore when you left us. I sent him home with your leather jacket and gloves - I know my little brother will be warm because of you. You know he is a grandpa now. I have also spoken with George and I am making arrangements to take your drums to George - he will I believe take the best care of them. I know you would be happy that he is putting them in the hands of people who will love them the way you did. I am still lost without you. I tried hard to go visit you yesterday but the traffic in Baton Rouge made it too late to go see you - I am so sorry I really want to be there but I will find a way to see you before Christmas.. Love you and wish you were here..

Today was your day

2009-11-26T06:00:00.002-06:00

This holiday became so important to you when you reconnected to your family. My heart is so broken that you are not here to celebrate it. Everyone is trying to help me get through this but the pain is so deep and I am so empty,, I know this is the hardest because its the first - but like I told Darren yesterday - coming to meet you would be ok with me. I love you and I am so sorry about the changes I am having to make but until I meet you again I have to figure this out. I am trying my best and hope you understand. I wish I could visit you today but it is not going to happen - I pray you understand - you are always in my heart. So Harry - Happy Thanksgiving and I hope you are celebrating with your friends and family in heaven - enjoy your cranberry sauce..

Benny

2009-11-24T06:53:00.003-06:00

Benny stopped by last night with the new 12 Yats CD - he wrote a beautiful dedication to you ... I am so proud of the last song you recorded with him.. what a trooper you were.. and the greatest gift is that you will always be playing drums somewhere.. and your name will always be associated with the one thing you always were - a great New Orleans drummer.

I am so proud of you..

Love, Mona

today is not going to be good for me

2009-11-21T10:22:00.000-06:00

I have to start some changes that I do not want to make - none of this takes you out of my heart or mind - but I cannot continue to slip. I know you would tell me to get off my ____ and do what I have to do - so today I start that process. But my heart is breaking....

love you

Made Some Hard Decisions today

2009-11-16T18:50:00.002-06:00

Made some decisions today that I did not want to make.. but in the long run it is for the better - hopefully the pain, fear and frustration will find a way to leave..

I still miss you and my heart breaks for you everyday..

Friends FromCalifornia

2009-11-10T22:14:00.002-06:00

Ray and his family stopped in New Orleans. I had them stay at the house. I sent them to places you would have taken them with pride and last night we went to Crazy Johnnies. I truly wish you had been here - you would have had so much fun. And on their way back to California - they stopped to visit you. I hope you knew.. I miss you so much... things are tough but I will figure it out - I promise - I am not sure how but I will. love you always

Took your Mom to see you yesterday

2009-11-08T09:00:00.001-06:00

Your Mom and I went to Rayne yesterday to visit you... I am so sorry I did not make it on All Saints Day. But you are surrounded by the orange roses you used to bring your Mom. I will bring you Calla Lilly's next time. They meant so much to us at the house. I will find them. Please help me with my current challenges - give me strength. I love ya.

A year ago today

2009-10-31T11:51:00.002-05:00

You had just home from a month in the hospital and we were looking forward to Thanksgiving at Robyn's and Christmas here.. We went to bed early - you did not want to hand out candy. I wish we were having the same conversations this year. This week was so lonely. I miss you and I will always love you..

The Memorial

2009-10-26T06:05:00.000-05:00

Thank you to everyone involved - whether it was planning, playing, working or performing. Harry would have been proud of all of you. I am looking forward to building the foundation and having the ability to help those of you who helped us. I am going to take a few days to re-coop and then move forward with all of the things that will be required to get the foundation moving forward.

Dedicated to Harry

2009-10-25T05:27:00.004-05:00

A friend from Harry's from California - has written this song in his honor..

Mr. Second Line
Lyrics & Music
Ron Christopher
@2009
Dedicated to Harry Ravain (1948-2009)

It was in L A, way back “in the day”
We were in our prime, sure had ourselves a time
I would write the songs, you were on the drums
Always right on time…..Mr. Second Line

Up from New Orleans, with your hopes and dreams
You hit Hollywood, it was lookin’ good
Like a hurricane, they gave you a name
The man with perfect time…..Mr. Second Line

Bridge:
Friends right from the start, brothers in arms
Playin’ from the heart, shootin’ for the stars
But shooting stars must fade, ‘tho they burn so bright
As they pass our way and touch us with their light

Born a “Travelin’ Man”, you went back to “Loosianne”
‘cross the Ponchartrain, in Katrina’s path you came
You survived it all, but now the Master calls
You came home just in time…..Mr. Second Line

Now it’s time to go, time to play the final show
There’s no turning back, the stage lights fade to black
I’ll play these songs again, but it won’t never be the same
A waltz-in-six or doubletime…..without Mr. Second Line

Tag:

A truer friend I’ll never find
Thank you for your time…..Mr. Second Line

Looking Forward to Sunday

2009-10-22T09:39:00.001-05:00

I want to thank in advance all the musicians who are coming to play on Sunday.. I am looking forward to seeing all of you and enjoying the day..

Musicians Added - Memorial Celebration

2009-10-15T16:29:00.002-05:00

Memorial Celebration Flyer

2009-10-13T21:15:00.004-05:00

Memorial Celebration - October 25th - Rock N Bowl - Musicians

2009-10-10T15:27:00.005-05:00

Look for more names to come but here are some of the performers for the Memorial Celebration...

Kathie Savoie
The Kingsman - Reunion Performance
Hector Nivens
New Orleans Quarternotes
Freddie Staehle
Ed Peneguy
Randy Lewis
Frank Corona
Eddie Powers
Earl Stanley
Joe Lovechio
Johnny Vindigni
Jimmy Chandler
Wendy Siegel
Bootsie Cuquet
Steve Adams
Wardell Williams
Ray Maronne
Tommy Morris
Boozie Jackson
Nat Montalbano
Scott VanMatre
Barry Lacour
Henry Hitt
Mickey DeLaRoda
Earl Roesch
Karl Hunter

Harry Ravain Memorial Celebration

2009-10-05T21:57:00.003-05:00

On October 25, 2009 from 3pm-7pm there will be a Memorial Celebration for Harry at the new Rock N Bowl. Your donation will be your admission.

I met with Alan Reese and Bob Eichhorn tonight and here is what is on tap for the event. There will be jam sessions led by Alan Resse and his band the New Orleans Quarter Notes.. there will be a reunion performance by The Kingsman (the band Harry joined when he was 14) - they were hoping to have this reunion before Harry left us but that did not happen - so they are reuniting in his honor.

We will have Harry's Fender Stratocaster on site and we will ask all the musicians that play that day to autograph it and then we will auction it off for the Harry's Hats foundation at a later date. I will have more information on the mission of the organization at the event.

Harry & Eddie Fresche the day I gave him the guitar

The Saints game will be on as they play the Miami Dolphins in Miami that day at 3pm. We are having this event so that those who could not attend the funeral have their opportunity to say goodbye.

If you are a musician and would like to participate please contact Alan Reese at 504-289-2167 or email him at noquarternotes@yahoo.com or leave a message at home for me 504-219-1521 or email me at mr2ndline@yahoo.com and I will get your information to Alan.

I also want to thank in advance John Blancher of Rock N Bowl for always being so kind and to Sherman Bernard for always being there for Harry and I. I will post musicians as they agree to perform - so come back often and see what the updates are.

I am also trying to compile a list of all the bands Harry played with during his life. If Harry played with you please send me the band name so that I can recognize them at the event.

Thanks and I hope to see you there,,

Memorial Celebration - October 25th - Rock N Bowl & Harry Hat's website

2009-10-05T04:47:00.004-05:00

There will be a Memorial Celebration for Harry from 3-7pm on October 25th. Details to be worked out tonight. There will be music, the Saints game will be on the screens (they are playing Miami in Miami at 3), and an opportunity for anyone who wishes to speak about Harry to do so. I know a lot of you were unable to attend the funeral - Harry wanted his memorial here to be a celebration.

There will be no admission price your donation will be your admission. I will post more information over the next few days..

There is now a starter web page up for the foundation I created in Harry's name - the address is http://www.harryshats.org/

Headstone Complete

2009-09-28T16:00:00.005-05:00

Going to Rayne - Headstone Being Installed

2009-09-28T07:05:00.002-05:00

I am driving to Rayne today to be there when they put Harry's headstone in and to make sure they put the driftwood cross from my brothers and sisters in the correct place.

7 Weeks today

2009-09-24T15:52:00.002-05:00

It's been almost 2 months since you are gone.. I can't tell you how heavy my heart is sometimes. Tonight Benny & Tony are coming tonight. I am looking forward to seeing them.

Bo - you are my angel - and I appreciate you and Dusty so much. Thank you..

We are going to your "Angel Face's" birthday party Saturday - She and your nephew Dustin were born on the same day..

More things are happening

2009-09-21T20:06:00.002-05:00

The foundation logo is almost complete. I have finished a concept proposal for a fund raising event and will hopefully get to propose it to a very public figure and garner their support to make it a reality. Working on other suggestions. So I guess today was a good day overall. Now if I could just sleep more than an hour at a time..

Miss ya honey

doing a little better

2009-09-20T09:23:00.001-05:00

Slept yesterday - cooking lunch and getting ready to watch the saints..

Thanks to Tom Albi - the logo for your foundation is coming along extraordinarily well... I am so glad Tom is creating this for you.

And praying that everything is OK at Darren's with his pets..

too much for one day

2009-09-18T07:02:00.001-05:00

yesterday was a difficult day - still working through it

love you

Better today

2009-09-17T05:29:00.000-05:00

I am little better today - going to see the lawyer about filing with the IRS for your foundations non-profit status. Hopefully all will go well. Going to get off my rear and start working on your Memorial Celebration this weekend.

Love you

who knew

2009-09-15T15:00:00.002-05:00

Who knew that going to the grocery store would be so hard. I guess it was the first time I went without people here to shop for the house. I kept wanting to pick things up for you only to realize that you are not home anymore. Reality really sunk in.

I miss you so much.

Came Home Last Night

2009-09-14T16:38:00.002-05:00

The house is so empty without you. I want to go back 2 years and relive the whole time we were in the house.

But I can't do that - I have to look forward and make the best of it.

Love Mona

Heading Home

2009-09-13T06:58:00.002-05:00

I am usually happy to go home - not so much today - as it is to an empty home.

Missed Mike Ravain Sr's 60th birthday party yesterday. Happy Birthday Mike - Harry would have loved to have been there.

But worked on Harry's Hats foundation ideas and paperwork and got some stuff done.

Miss ya honey..

Still in Chicago

2009-09-10T08:51:00.001-05:00

I am still in Chicago - Will be home this weekend. It still feels weird not calling home.

Miss ya and love ya

In Chicago

2009-09-08T08:04:00.000-05:00

I am on my first business trip since Harry is gone. It is very weird - I keep wanting to call home and check on him. So instead I will just pray that Harry is watching over me and checking in on me. Miss you and love you.. Mona

New AIr Conditioner

2009-09-04T17:40:00.000-05:00

Is installed and working.. If you live in New Orleans area use CT Traina. They assessed it at 9am and were installing it by 1pm by 3pm they were done. Have been using them since we bought the house..

Harry - you would be happy with the new unit. Checking in with your Mom everyday - she needs to slow down - maybe she will while I am gone - we've been going full out for a while.

Love ya and miss ya terribly

Mona

New Air Conditioning Unit

2009-09-04T11:26:00.000-05:00

OF course - ours is not repairable - so I am waiting on the call for the final tally on replacing the unit. At least it will be cold in the house..

one month

2009-09-04T06:27:00.003-05:00

Yesterday was one month - I can't believe it - it does not seem possible. yesterday was not as bad as usual but only because the air conditioner at the house quit working last night and now I am waiting to call a repair guy - it is only 85 in the house.. but I miss you terribly and wish you were still here

Mona

Memorial Celebration for Harry in October

2009-09-02T18:36:00.001-05:00

There will be a Memorial Celebration for Harry at Rock N Bowl on Sunday October 25, 2009. This is our 11th wedding anniversary. No details yet - this is just a save the date notice

Mona

foundation is set up

2009-09-02T11:59:00.000-05:00

Went to the bank this morning and Harrys Hats is now an LLC - and will be filing for non profit status with IRS later this week..

Harry - I miss you

Headstone

2009-08-30T05:15:00.001-05:00

Harry - I still have a few things to decide on but the headstone will be beautiful. Your Mom was a great help in making some decisions. She seemed to really enjoy the gumbo with the family. I think we truly laughed for the first time in a while. We are still having some "of course" moments - but I will look into it for her. I miss you and love you.

Going to see a bunch of people this week about your foundation and your memorial celebration..

Love
Mona

3 weeks tomorrow

2009-08-26T20:25:00.000-05:00

It seems impossible - has it already been 3 weeks. It feels like it but time plays tricks on you. Your Mom and I are coming on Friday - we're coming to design the headstone and visit you.

going to rest now..

Mona

Harryshats.org

2009-08-25T16:04:00.001-05:00

I guaranteed the website for the foundation yesterday. there is nothing there yet. Joined the non profit society for a trial run and am having a meeting about what to do with it tonight. Tom - thank you for listening and I cannot wait to see the logo.. Bo - thanks as always..

and Harry - I miss you so much...love Mona

You would have been so happy yesterday

2009-08-23T17:56:00.000-05:00

Karen, Missy, Raymond, the boys and your Mom were all here along with your Cousin Mike Sr and Mike Jr. They fixed they roof, helped me move some stuff around and made the yard look amazing. We were able to move some stuff around today but it still is so hard. Thank you for all the drops in.. on the soap opera and under siege this morning. It comforts me to see things with your hand print all over them. I am going to meet with some people soon about your memorial and foundation. I hope I am doing things the way you want them - I can only try. I am starting to reach out a little more.

I miss you and love you..

I am taking your Mom next weekend to see you..

Mona

2 weeks ago today

2009-08-20T14:07:00.001-05:00

It is so hard to believe - but you've been gone now for so long. I miss you so much.

Love Mona

Paul asked about you today

2009-08-18T15:38:00.000-05:00

Hey Harry,

I miss you so much. But I wanted you to know that Paul emailed me today.. he misses you too..

Love Mona

I miss you

2009-08-16T15:19:00.001-05:00

Harry,

It's been a week now since I last saw your face. They say time heals and I pray that it is true. I miss you.

Love,
Mona

complete obituary - not posted in Times Picayune

2009-08-11T09:49:00.000-05:00

Published on August 08, 2009

Harold Rogers Ravain, Jr.

RAYNE - Funeral services will be held at Gossen Funeral Home Chapel Sunday, August 9, 2009 at 1 p.m. for , 60 musician for 50 years and president of Arabo Records, who left us for a fulltime gig in heaven Thursday, August 6, 2009 in the presence of his wife, mother, brother-in-law and friends at his residence.

Interment will be in the St. Joseph Cemetery #2, Rayne, LA.

He was born Thursday, October 7, 1948 in New Orleans, Son of the late Harold Roger Ravain, Sr. and Joycelyn Hurndon Adams.

He was a native of New Orleans and resident of Metairie. He was a 1968 graduate of Cor Jesu and attended Loyola School of Music. Harry was the longtime drummer for Benny Grunch and the Bunch, but in his life he toured the world or shared his recording talents with many including Tom Waits, Paul Butterfield, Dwight Yoakum, Ronnie Barron, The Fabulous Boogie Kings, GG Shinn, Jo-El Sonnier and many more. He was truly a New Orleans Drummer who loved his city and loved the music. He was inducted into the Louisiana Music Hall of Fame with The Fabulous Boogie Kings, The Sparks, The Milestones and Benny Grunch and the Bunch. He was a longtime member and officer of the New Orleans Musicians Alumni Association. He was honored with an article in classic Drummer Magazine in the July, August and September issue of 2007.

Harry was a Master Mason who rose through the ranks of leadership and served as Past Master of the Silver Trowel Lodge in Los Angeles, California receiving his 25 year service pin. When he returned to New Orleans dual membership was granted to him by Germania Lodge and in his last year of life he proudly became a member of the Jerusalem Shrine.

Survivors include his wife Romona Alleman Ravain, His mother, Joycelyn Adams of Terrytown, La. His sister-in-law Karen and her husband Mac Dore of Broussard; Michelle and her husband Raymond Prejean of Rayne, his brother-in-law Michael and his wife Michele of Seabrook, Tx. As well as many nieces and nephews. In the last year of his life he reconnected with many of his Ravain family members without whom his life would have been incomplete.

Masonic service will be performed.

Pallbearers will be Benny Terranova, Robert Wilson, Andre' Neff, Mike Ravain Sr., Mike Ravain and Bob Fuxan. Honorary pallbearers will be Mike Alleman, Raymond Prejean, Mac Dore, Dustin Kinney, Johnny Vindigni, Benny Antin, Bob Eichorn, Greg Murray, Alan Reese, John Blancher and Mike Ravain, Jr.

He was preceded in death by his father, Harold R. Ravain, Sr. and his in-laws Leo and Belle Alleman.

Friends will be received 1 p.m. until 9 p.m. Saturday, August 8 and Sunday, August 9, 2009 from 10 a.m. until services at Gossen Funeral Home, Inc., Rayne, LA.

Friends may view the obituary and guestbook online at www.gossenfuneral home.net.

Arrangements have been entrusted to Gossen Funeral Home, Inc. of Rayne, LA, (337) 334-3141.

Gossen Funeral Home, Inc.

Thank You

2009-08-10T09:12:00.002-05:00

Today is hard .... but only for me and Harry's Mom.. He is resting peacefully in Rayne, LA. Thank you again for all the kind words, gestures and support over the past year. It was quite a year.. We met some wonderful health care people who gave us hope. Harry and I grew closer than we had ever been, he reunited with his mother, his friends showed him how much they cared - the benefits were amazing, he found a whole bunch of cousins, and had all of his in-laws get closer to us. Without each of you the last year would have been unbearable. He had a very touching and proud send off. Thank you to those who could attend and to those for which the turn around was too quick - I intend to have a memorial for him in New Orleans in October and create a foundation in his name to help Musicians and Masons with cancer.. It may take a couple of days before you here from me again but know that each of you are in my heart and I thank you for all you have done ...

Mona Ravain & Joycelyn Adams

Many Thanks

2009-08-08T21:29:00.001-05:00

For all the kind words, the plants, the flowers and the visits today.. You are all precious people with huge hearts

Arrangements

2009-08-07T17:52:00.003-05:00

The wake for Harry will be Saturday from 1-9pm and Sunday from 10a - 1pm. The services will be at Gossen Funeral Home; 504 North Polk St. Rayne, LA; 337-334-3141; www.gossenfuneralhome.net He will be buried on Sunday at St. Joseph Cemetery. He will have a Masonic Funeral. After we will gather at the American Legion Hall.

Please copy and follow this link for directions to the funeral home from New Orleans to Rayne..... http://www.mapquest.com/mq/1-UBrLhPf7j35wIPhN

There are several hotels in the area if you are interested in staying
in the area you must mention bereavement rate at the hotels..

At the Days Inn you must mention for Harry Ravain Funeral or Michelle Prejean -

See the following

Days Inn 1125 Chuch Point Hwy, Rayne, LA 70578(next to Chef Roy's) 337-334-0000
All rooms have Micro/frig, have free continental breakfast
Single $ 49.99 Double $59.99
Bereavement Rate ask for Devin mention rooms Michelle Prejean
Check In 3pm check out 11
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Best Western 1422 N polk Rayne, LA 70578 ( next to Sonic & Gabe's) 337-334-0060
King or 2 Queen $70.00 per night
Ask for Bereavement Rate rate given to me by Pesh
Check In 3pm check out 11
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Super 8, 3001 Daulat Drive, Duson, LA 337-873-8883
$56.99 King o
2 Double bed room $60.99
Ask for Bereavement Rategiven to me by Agatha
Check In 3pm check out 11
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Arrangements

2009-08-07T05:53:00.002-05:00

I will be posting the arrangements for Harry later today. It was his wish that he be buried where I am to be - so all the services will be in Rayne, Louisiana. Rayne is just past Lafayette on I-10. I am hoping to have visitation on Saturday and burial on Sunday - but that is not conclusive yet and won't be until this afternoon..

Again - thanks to all you have stood by us along the way. Harry was a great man and the only things he ever needed were his friends, family and more importantly his drums. I pray that has already written and performed a new song and that it is one of joy..

Mona Ravain

He's Gone

2009-08-06T18:47:00.001-05:00

Harry left this world at 615pm this evening.. Surrounded by friends and family he has joined God's Band..

Thank you all

More peaceful - much less pain..

2009-08-06T05:57:00.001-05:00

Harry has had a very quiet and restful night. We seem to really have controlled his pain - I am able to move him a little without disturbing him. God has granted us that small favor. Just pray that he stays comfortable and peaceful until he and God are through..

Thank you all

Mona

resting well

2009-08-06T01:17:00.001-05:00

Harry is snoring.. Good sign that he is getting pain relief..

Mona

Full Day of Visitors

2009-08-05T17:19:00.001-05:00

Many of you came by today to see Harry and I cannot tell you how it warms my heart to have you come to see him. He is breathing a little heavier today than yesterday and he is drinking less water than before.. So his time is coming and he and God seem to be at peace with each other..

thanks again

Mona

Another Quiet Night

2009-08-05T06:24:00.000-05:00

Harry is still resting - thank you for your calls and prayers.

Hospice Came Today

2009-08-04T21:27:00.001-05:00

Harry is now officially under hospice care. And after all that they brought him a medicine to relax him and of course it is a flavor that he hates and when I gave it to him - he told me to take it back.

He is peaceful - surrounded by friends and family all day.

My brother is here with me....

Quiet Night

2009-08-04T07:01:00.001-05:00

Harry is resting peacefully again - he wanted to turn and that was painful for him but we (Bobby) and I got him where he wanted to be. He was able to take some pain medication last night.

Hospice should be here this morning and I will update again after they leave..

Lots of visitors - thank you

2009-08-03T18:08:00.002-05:00

I would like to thank all of you for your visits today - it is heartwarming to know how many of you care about Harry.

Hospice - still has not come and will not until the morning but Harry's doctor came by this afternoon to see him and told me that the end is very near. The swelling in his throat are the tumors and they are growing.

I will continue to update as often as I can - please let others know - I have tried to reach some by phone that do not have a computer but I am sure I am missing important people.. if I do please apologize for me.

When the time comes I will make sure that the arrangements are posted here.

I am very proud of Harry for his courage and the way he has fought but the time has come for him to go home with his head held high and to play drums with all of his friends in heaven.

thank you again.. I love you all

Waiting on Hospice

2009-08-03T12:22:00.000-05:00

Home Health is calling the Doctor for Hospice orders - I will update when I have more information.. He is very still, very peaceful and resting - with no sound..

Keep Praying for him..

No Change

2009-08-03T06:29:00.000-05:00

Harry is still sleeping. He has had some pain medication. Waiting to hear from Hospice today. There was paperwork to handle that could not be done till today. Pray for him. He seems peaceful.

I have called in Hospice

2009-08-02T17:17:00.002-05:00

Harry had a day full of visitors.. his Mom; my sisters and their husbands, Johnny and Bootsie. But Harry is not getting any better so after much prayer and thought and tears I made the call today to start the process to have Hospice come and make the transition easier for him. Thank you all for all you have done - please know that each of you hold a very special place in our hearts - we could not have fought the fight without your support. I will post often.. check back..

thank you for all your thoughts and prayers

2009-08-02T08:48:00.000-05:00

We truly appreciate all of them.

Pain Medicine

2009-08-02T05:16:00.002-05:00

Harry took some pain medicine around midnight - finally he slept for a little while - he also let me roll him.. Groaning a little this morning - I am going to try to get him to take another pain pill..I was able to get him to take another one.. hopefully this will help him

Pray for him today

No change

2009-08-01T19:35:00.000-05:00

Harry is refusing to take any of his medications and refusing to wear his oxygen. But he is sleeping and breathing peacefully. I am pretty sure he and God are working this out..

Still No Change -

2009-08-01T14:09:00.000-05:00

Harry is still resting quietly -

Darren - thank you for helping me out - it may not have seemed like much - but it was.

Peaceful Night

2009-08-01T05:47:00.001-05:00

Harry had a peaceful night. Pray that he and God are working together for what is right for him, give me the will to accept their decision.

No Change

2009-07-31T18:30:00.003-05:00

Harry is sleeping day and night with very little response. I am praying that the steroids change that - staying very quiet and praying for a recovery..

Please check here regularly - the phone makes him jump..

I promise to keep posting updates..

Decent Night

2009-07-31T07:40:00.001-05:00

Changed his medicines last night. His body is still aching quite a bit but he slept through the night without too much trouble. Yesterday we were able to talk for a little while and that made me feel better. Hopefully this medicine change will show some improvement over the next day or so. His Mom is coming today and my sister and her husband are coming for the weekend to help.

I am calling home health today to see if they did anything about getting a hospital bed. He would be more comfortable in that I think. Anyway - we'll see how all the new things work out ..

I'll update more this afternoon..

Spoke with a couple of doctors today

2009-07-30T17:45:00.001-05:00

They are changing up his meds a little in hope of getting him some energy and hopefully eating, the consequence is higher blood sugars but if it gets him moving.. we'll deal with that..

thanks for all your prayers..

Both the Nurse and Physical Therapist Came today

2009-07-30T11:50:00.000-05:00

I spoke with both of them and we agreed so I have put some calls into the doctors to see about adjusting his medicines to see if that helps at all...

Now just waiting on the calls...

Both said he seemed better today..

A little better this morning

2009-07-30T08:41:00.001-05:00

I am a little encouraged by his reaction to me staying home today. He has already had a glucerna and turned in the bed. I am going to talk to the home care nurse today - I think I may know what is causing the extreme fatigue. Anyway - thank you for all the prayers - please pray for his strength to return...

Mona

Not So Good

2009-07-29T20:10:00.000-05:00

Harry is sleeping all the time now. I am not sure where we are headed but I have taken tomorrow off to spend the day at home taking care of him. Pray for Harry ro have the strength to tell me how he wants to go forward, give me the will to accept the answer he gives me.

Please if you have it within your heart - ask God to help me give him what he needs and ask God that his will be done for Harry and that Harry gets peace, comfort and if my prayers are answered health and energy.

Thanks to all of you - I will post again tomorrow after the nurse comes in the morning.

Too Much for a Short Title

2009-07-29T06:41:00.002-05:00

Harry Mom came over yesterday and was able to get him to eat a little more than he has been, he also asked for pudding last night when I have him his meds so that was encouraging. He was unable to do much with Physical Therapy yesterday - maybe on Friday with his CNA - exercising his legs.

And in the Of Course category... my neighbor AL came by to let me know that one of the teenage boys that roam the neighborhood threw a large rock through one of my windows. So I had to call the cops and deal with the one of the kids of that group who of course "didn't know who did it" in front of his parent and the cops but sure boasted to a bunch of other kids yesterday afternoon. I explained to the brat in front of his parents that - had they thrown the rock into the next window - they would have hit Harry and I cannot begin to tell them what kind of -ell they would have paid. So with everything else - now I have to have a window fixed.

Stephanie and her friend Courtney (Al & Bonnie's daughter - my neighbors) helped me tape it up for now. Also Mike Sr & Jr. Al has offered to cut my grass with a riding lawnmower - if I can get someone to weed eat - (that is probably spelled really wrong)

Anyway -that is how my day ended and begins - there is good and bad everyday and as someone who was really wise one told me - it's not the event - it's how you handle it.

God - I give today over to you.

Mona

Sleep

2009-07-28T08:36:00.000-05:00

Harry was able to sleep soundly from 6pm until this morning. His mother is with him today - I hope she can coax him into eating - I was not able. She sure is good for him and I am glad she was able to visit today. Physical Therapy is starting at 11am - hopefully he will work with them to get his strength back. thanks to all for your prayers - more after lunch

Still Nauseated - Still tired

2009-07-27T18:49:00.000-05:00

Harry had another long day. The physical therapist came by and Harry stood for a few seconds but was too weak to continue. Not really interested in eating but I am going to try a little later to push - he'll probably hate me for a while but that's my job if he wants to get better.

Next try tomorrow at 11am..

I will be moving furniture again tonight to help him get PT on track with him. His mom may come by tomorrow - that could help because I do not seem to be motivating him today - no matter what I do.

A very special thanks to my job.. the grace in which you have treated me has lifted my heart and eased my mind and refreshed my spirit.

Mona

Chemptherapy - giving Harry a run for his money

2009-07-27T06:26:00.002-05:00

Harry is doing ok. This chemotherapy is supposed to make you nauseated...and it is living up to its expectation. He has not thrown up but he feels not so good. Hopefully that will start to subside. The physical therapist is supposed to come today and Ms. Lillie also starts with us today.

Harry is very tired and nauseated as I said - so I will post as often as I can to update you. He really is not up to chatting just yet - maybe in a day or 2.

Also our congratulations go out to my Godmother and her Husband they were named Golden King and Queen of the Frog Festival in Rayne Lousisana yesterday - wish we could have been there...Prayers to my Uncle Wilmur - may God's plan for you be revealed as it is supposed to be. And Please say a prayer for Harry's Aunt Ethel - in the hospital with a combination of issues..

Love to all
I will post again later..

Mona

Saturday - Home Health - Etc

2009-07-26T08:48:00.003-05:00

Harry had a good night.. His blood sugars were really low most of the day yesterday but they are coming back up - which is good.

The side effects of this chemotherapy are more predominant than the last ones and they have greatly reduced the strength and kind of steroid he is on - so he has a little less energy for now.

Yesterday home health and occupational health came to the house to evaluate him and the house. Next up is a PT Therapist named Chris - have not met him yet.

We have hired one of his Mom's CNAs Lillie, to assist while I am at work and to be for him. She a very nice lady.

The occupational therapist will come back in a week to re- assess him, so the nurse will visit 2 times and the PT guy everyday except Sunday - I think.

He is asking to do things today he has not in the past week - so I am encouraged.

My husband is a remarkable man for fighting the way he has, I would not have his courage. Neither he nor God are obviously through yet. So it is in their hands and it is their decision.

Thanks to all who have been so kind and to God for dropping the right people at the right time with the things we need when we need them. This has not been an easy journey but it has been one that has opened doors, shown us grace and hopefully allowed us to do the same.

Now I have to straighten out the house..

Take care..

Mona

We got home last night

2009-07-25T06:37:00.003-05:00

I am sorry I did not post last night - but there was a lot to do to get him settled in. I still have a lot to do around the house but he is where he wants to be. I am waiting to hear from physical therapy to see what their orders are. I have also hired a nursing assistant so I can go back to work and he can get assistance all day.

So I will let you know how this all goes. I have an appointment to get my hair done - his mom will be here while I do that.

Thanks you again for all you have done...

Waiting on one more doc and a couple of more prescriptions

2009-07-24T14:36:00.001-05:00

We are waiting for the diabetes doctor to write the his insulin prescriptions.. And the air conditioner problem was just a fan motor -YEAH... his oxygen has been delivered at home - so we are one step closer to wheeling out..

Thank you Bobby, Mike Sr and Mike Jr - your efforts today are remarkable - I could not have handled all this without you

going home

2009-07-24T10:13:00.000-05:00

we are going home at sometime today. and since it is not like checking out of a hotel - this could take all day.. but he is very happy and we are going home with oxygen and physical therapy. And we have not figured out the air conditioner yet but a friend thinks it is just a fan issue.. I sure hope so. Maybe Harry's luck is wearing off on me.

I will post again when we get home

6am - update

2009-07-24T06:17:00.000-05:00

I am guessing Harry had a restful night because I slept through it and he did not wake me up. He woke up for a moment this morning and he seems to be alright. We start lobbying this morning to be sent home and praying that the air conditioner at home was just frozen and that it starts working, otherwise my luck is continuing at its usual rate. Oh well one event at a time.

I will update as the day goes on..

5pm Update

2009-07-23T17:31:00.002-05:00

Well - he is still doing well.. he blood sugars are getting in line with a tremendous amount of adjustments to the type, amount and frequency of insulin. They have also dropped the oxygen from 4 to 2.5 and his oxygenation is staying around 93%.

We are pretty sure he will get out either tomorrow or Saturday. He will have to take Neupogen shots for the next 8 days - so we are not home free with the chemo yet but he sure came out on top this morning. One of the reasons they treatments are so far apart is what it does to your blood. So I am praying that it does not knock him down too far.

So early tomorrow we start lobbying the physicians to go home..

Thanks to everyone who has had a hand in prayer and those who actually cared for him.

We could be going home with oxygen and respiratory treatments - we'll see..

take care

Mona

Noon Update

2009-07-23T12:00:00.002-05:00

Well - we've already had a full day. Harry managed to make it completely through chemotherapy with no nausea - in fact he ate while it was going on. They have given him lots of nausea meds. He also ate a full breakfast and worked extremely well with Physical Therapy - he walked 6-8' and did some leg exercises but got very tired from that and I am sure the chemotherapy. Anyway - while he was doing therapy - I was able to change the bed and clean him up. Jan and Vincent came to visit and gave me a break - thank you and while I was gone he had a chest xray. His blood sugars have been down 100 points today on average which is spectacular and it is looking more promising every hour that we can go home.. We are still waiting to see the Diabetes doc.. but overall a very very good day so far.

If you are not sure - it truly is liberating to turn over to God all that is in front of you and only request that his outcome be the one that happens..

Thanks to all of you for your support & prayers and I will post again later this afternoon..

right now I am going to try to nap - I think they are through with us - except for lunch.

Mona

4am - chemotherapy

2009-07-23T04:08:00.003-05:00

Thankfully Harry has been asleep 95% of the day. It is 4am and they actually after 7 hours of fluids and pre meds have finally started his actual chemotherapy treatment. This should take another 2 to 3 hours - hopefully he will sleep through it all and no one will come to draw blood, take his blood pressure etc until this is complete. I am praying that he gets no nausea or other common side effects. The one I am sure he will get it one of the drugs causes food to taste metallic - but I hope it is less this time than before. After spending the last few hours researching the protocol - it appears he will get this treatment every 3 weeks for up to 6 rounds. He will have to have B12 and Folic Acid to help his body through this - these were started earlier this week.

Harry and God are now in control and I trust that the outcome will be what it is supposed to be.

Thank you all for your prayers - I will let you know in a few hours how he does.

Mona

chemotherapy is starting tonight

2009-07-22T21:11:00.000-05:00

Dr. Schwarzenberger is treating harry tonight with chemotherapy.. they are about to start the pre meds then chemo should begin around 1am and run through 3am. Pray that he does not get too sick from it. So I will be up watching him tonight to be sure that if he needs anything I can get it for him.

Please pray for him..

Mona

chemotherapy and physical therapy

2009-07-22T11:27:00.000-05:00

Harry will have chemotherapy this afternoon and they are also going to start physical therapy to strengthen his legs today.

He has never had a full dose of chemotherapy - so we have no idea how he is going to react to it. I will post again tonight when it is done.

Thank you again for all your prayers..

Good Night

2009-07-22T07:19:00.000-05:00

Harry had a very good night - he got to eat and drink - waiting on the parade of doctors to see what is going on and when we are getting out.. I think we will be home by Saturday - let's hope..

Mona

Surgery is complete

2009-07-21T20:21:00.002-05:00

Harry had surgery this afternoon to put in a Bard Power Port. They decided early this morning to avoid further complications to have the Radiology Doctor that did his biopsy to place the port under a CT Scan. He came through brilliantly and the first thing he asked for was a Sugar Free Chocolate Snowball - so I got him one. He has eaten very well this evening.

They have added a few new items to the medication menu and it seems to be working.. Dr. Murray has his hands full trying to control the diabetes with all the steroids but he is working on it.

Harry should have a full chemotherapy treatment tomorrow - and I have been told to expect a 7 or 8 hour infusion.

If all goes well and they get his sugars to cooperate - I feel like we could go home this weekend.

Oh BTW - the chemo treatment will be once every 3 weeks..
thanks for all the prayers and visits - without them we would not be where we are today - thank you thank you thank you

Mona

Tonight - things are a little calmer

2009-07-20T20:06:00.001-05:00

Harry is doing better tonight. His lung is still partially collapsed but it is getting better with every passing hour. He has a new diabetes doctor and I think he will finally get control of it.. Still no idea when we are going to do the surgery - but he has once again "bounced back"..

Thanks to all of you for the prayers - your power is stronger than you think..

Mona

Biopsy Complete - No Surgery

2009-07-20T12:19:00.002-05:00

Harry made it through the biopsy this morning, but he had a partial lung collapse. At this time they have decided not to do any intervention at this time - they are waiting to see if it increases or decreases. Dr. Sandoz that did the biopsy believes there is some sort of infection or pneumonia in his lungs which means no surgery today. They will make decisions about what to do next at 1pm and 3pm. So I will update you when I know what is going on.

Mona

Biopsy and Surgery

2009-07-20T05:28:00.000-05:00

Today is going to be a very long day. Harry had a very decent night and is facing all of this with such a great spirit. I do not think if I were in his shoes I would have his strength and courage. We've been on quite the roller coaster ride over the past year. So anyway we are waiting for him to be taken down for the first procedure. I am sure all will go very well.

No indication of leaving the hospital yet - I will update later after things start happening.

Please pray for us today..

Mona

Harry got better as the day went along

2009-07-19T05:53:00.000-05:00

Yesterday was a very up and down day. Harry was very very sedate yesterday morning.. by late afternoon - after some medicine and respiratory treatments he was more alert and by 10pm last night had taken back control of the remote - that is when I knew things were looking up a bit.

For all those who sent prayers out for him yesterday - thank you God answered your prayers and mine.

I will post more this evening - after all the doctors - visit.

Mona

Harry is in the Hospital

2009-07-18T11:26:00.000-05:00

Harry was admitted to the hospital last night because his oxygen levels were low and his blood sugars were high. He is supposed to have a biopsy on Monday and they will try to put another port in then. The surgeon would not do that yesterday because of the other factors.

Now more than ever we need your prayers.

Update - procedures; surgery and chemo

2009-07-16T20:46:00.000-05:00

Harry has a steroid shot in his spine today and it seems to have already lessened the pain. Tomorrow at noon Harry is having surgery to put another port in - please pray there are no clots and no staph infections. Monday - back to the hospital for a biopsy and Tuesday he starts chemo.

Dr. Schwarezenberger is really being aggressive and his staff is wonderful. So lots of prayers are needed..

Harry will be tired for a few days - and me too..

thanks

Mona

Rehearsal

2009-07-14T06:55:00.002-05:00

Last night a wonderful group of musicians came over for a 2 hour rehearsal. Good time was had by all. You sounded great!

New Biopsy on Monday July 20th

2009-07-13T11:14:00.001-05:00

They called this morning and Harry is having a new biopsy on Monday July 20th - 6am

So thanks to Dr. Schwarzenberger - it looks like the new battle has begun.

Mona

Our Nephew Andrew, Niece Kaylin and Harry

2009-07-12T11:35:00.004-05:00

Andrew came to visit us this weekend from Texas. He's our nephew that graduated from High School in June. He and Harry did lots and lots of work on all the drum sets in the house. He lifted Harry's spirits, found things I could have never found in a million years and made today a great day at our house.

Yesterday we went to Jack Dempsey's for lunch then took a ride down to the parish (St. Bernard) to see the Islenos Museum. You see my family is directly descendant of Juan de Alleman that came over on the 3 boats sent by Spain from the Canary Islands to America.

My niece Kaylin - is doing great and may be released from the hospital today. -

So Harry is doing good - hoping that the injection helps him get some strength back and Dr. S finds a way to beat this thing for a while longer..